In retrospect, perhaps I am unfair. I have not commented on the effects of the women's liberation movement on men.

And no, it is not fair to say that there hasn't been a change, just because Frank expects his dinner every night and the house cleaned every day and a shag every now and then. He would have expected it then, and he expects it now. But Frank is not modern man. Frank very much lives in the 50s and his mother was on valium until the day she died of an ovedose. It's easier for us- He has one role. I have one role. I clean. I am very good at cleaning. And baking. I just can't escape the pressure of being more.

Young women are on the hunt for the more "sensitive man" who will do his share of the housework (if not all), not be afraid to help with a dirty diaper or other bits of children, encourage her to work while he works on his career and still be a damn dynamo in the sheets. In short, they are looking for a wife too. And men are feeling the stress of "oh shit I have more than one task to do too" and are taking the happy pills in record numbers, instead of making fun of couch doctors as a bunch of hooey like my father used to. Men have to be it all just as much as women do- and of course there is a strain there. Too few couples treat marriage as a partnership like two oxen plowing a field- when they work together it's much easier for them. No- inevitably they both want to be the farmer with the whip and the steering mechanism, but you only need one of them, and not all the time.

It's only the couch doctors and the pharmacies getting rich these days, I know. Take the blue pills- they're prettier.  ¶ 3:06 PM